Our 15th Monthsary

Yay another month to celebrate!!!

After surviving a flu for 2 nights and 1 whole day, thank GOD, I am healed and am to celebrate another month gone by...a testimony of GOD's amazingness in my life...Cody and I's 15th monthsary!

When I woke up this morning, I was suddenly craving for Cody and just thinking about the very first time I saw him at the airport. All of our firsts together. My best memories are definitely with Cody.

Because of my sickness and Cody's busy-ness at work, I'm sure we both forgot this special day. hehehe! Well, we still have lots of hours left to celebrate it.

Whenever I watch my 3 favorite love-story tv series everyday, I always think of my leading man. My Cody. I would like to celebrate this day by sharing some of his sweetness that I saved in my phone...

you're right. you don't have the beauty of a celebrity. you're MORE beautiful.

i'll make you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. because you are and because i love you!

well.. whatever you like. i'd do it for you since im not impressing anyone else (out of curiosity, i was asking him if he could shave his goatee for me hehehe)

i'm not just ready to settle down; i want to settle down with you.

I was also amazed when he told me earlier that he wants to be my #1 prayer person or the #1 person praying for me. In other terms, I also desire him to be my first prayer partner. My spiritual partner. I just really thank GOD so much for my very beautiful blessing.

Cody, I know I may not be perfect but I know that you are so perfect for me. In spite of our imperfections, we are a perfect couple because together, we make a great team. I am willing to commit myself to you all the days of my life. My love and commitment to you is forever. I am so thankful to have you. Trials may come and go but those trials make our relationship much stronger. I pray that we will always glorify GOD in this relationship. HAPPY 15TH MONTHSARY, MY HONEY DARLING SWEETNESS, SWEETIE, LOVE!

FATHER, THANK YOU FOR ANOTHER MONTH TO CELEBRATE. THANK YOU FOR YOURSELF IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING, O FATHER. GOD, YOU ARE ALWAYS OUR FIRST LOVE. YOU ARE OUR NUMBER ONE PARTNER IN EVERYTHING. FATHER, I AM SO AMAZED AT HOW YOU WORK IN OUR LIVES. THANK YOU FOR THE HEALING. WE DEDICATE OUR LIVES TO YOU AS INDIVIDUALS AND AS A COUPLE. YOU ALONE ARE GOD.

ALL THE GLORY IN THIS RELATIONSHIP BELONGS TO GOD ALONE!!!

ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE WITH GOD!!!

P.U.S.H.

When you feel GOD's love, OVERFLOW!

Let Your Needs Be Recognized

...and your faults be pointed out.

This is something I have learned from my parents after my dad's accident.

My dad has been more open and my mom has been more understanding and eager to reach out.

I am not yet married (I will be SOON!) but I have read in a book that whatever you practice outside marriage is what you will be doing inside your marriage. So while Cody and I are not yet married, we are doing things that will beautify our relationship each day. We become more vulnerable but we do not take advantage of the weaknesses. Instead, we fill each one of them with the strengths from each other. Since I have watched my parents' marriage from childhood, I've seen how my mom suffered. I cannot even describe the sufferings she experienced. When I see other couples who fight over the pettiest things (I'm guilty of that hehehe), I look at my mom. Then I think, "How could they (we) not overcome the sufferings when my mom went through a huge hurricane in her life but she still cares about my dad's being?" Then I start feeling blessed for having Cody in my life.

To summarize...my mom was born in a poor family. Very poor family. She worked hard when she was little and until now she still is working hard just to let us finish our studies (I've already finished mine and my other sister hehehe). All three of us. Along the way, she experienced the toughest trials in her life from her husband (also her daughters). I could not say all the details but I hope you start looking at your marriage as a blessing.

When someone asked my mom how she handled all of those and they still see her strong and not ever giving up, she simply said, "I have a GOD." The other woman answered back, "But I have a GOD, too." My mom replied, "Yes you do but I guess it's my grip on GOD that differentiates us." The other woman said, "I want to know your GOD more. I want to go to your church." Okay I'm not saying it's all about the church. hehehe!

Weeks ago, my dad went through a negative temperament that he was not able to control. It was horrible. But this was the start of their beautiful marriage. Why? My dad was able to tell my mom his needs that he couldn't say before. My mom admitted her shortcomings. She just needed a brave man to confront her. Okay now here's the warning: When you confront and point out faults, be gentle and pray first. Seek GOD first. When you share your needs, remember that your spouse is not your enemy. Your spouse is your partner and teammate. Each spouse should always feel that. Do not be selfish of giving yourselves to your spouses. Do not be prideful. Do not close your ears and hearts to the person you married. Do not be offended. One key: never be offended but take it as a challenge to be a better spouse and a better person. You'll see a beautiful change take over your marriage if you both do this. It can be very difficult depending on your personalities and temperaments so be patient. Before anything else, pray together. Always pray together.

I watched a tv show last night about a pastor and his wife which was based on a true story. He knew that she was sick but he still married her. She died. When I watch this kind of shows/movies, I began to see things in a different light. I see how blessed I am that Cody is still alive but I'm rude to him sometimes. hehehe! I see how impatient I could get and let my temperaments get to me and some people struggle coz of death or other heartbreaking reasons which unable them to show their love to their partners.

I shall leave you with something Cody told me that we both strongly believe about divorce...

the only solution is loving and forgiving. well.. and making wise decisions before marrying. that certainly provides stronger chances.

i meant there's no right solution by making divorce legal or illegal. man's laws shouldn't decide moral thoughts like that. i hope that might clear up any confusion.

about open communication...

it's very important we communicate like this and in this manner. of course, we should not make sure not to abuse it.

For divorce: I really hope singles will be more accountable with their actions and wiser with their decisions before marriage. We shouldn't let the legality of divorce dictate our decisions. Like for some, they just get married because they know that divorce is an option. As they say, trial and error. A survey I've read about divorce says, "...partners who are on their second or third marriage are 90 percent more likely to separate than spouses who are both in their first marriage." ~The study was jointly written by Dr Rebecca Kippen and Professor Bruce Chapman from The Australian National University, and Dr Peng Yu from the Department of Families, Housing, Community Services and Indigenous Affairs.~ It is not healthy to jump from one relationship to another to test who is better. To take the chances that maybe someone is better out there when we can do better with the one we are with now. It can be a huge challenge, my friends, BUT it is very rewarding.

For open communication: IF it is very difficult to reach out to your spouse, you should both take the Temperament Test and somehow compromise, understand and love each other more. Always be considerate and patient. Patience has its own rewards.

I am not yet married and I am very much challenged by this open communication thing. Humans have that selfish nature but overcoming that nature makes us more victorious, joyful, lovable and peaceful creations. GOD'S PROMISES ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!

I know I know it's easy to say but it can be tricky to do all of these. So WATCH OUT and TEST YOUR WORDS AND ACTIONS BEFORE SAYING AND DOING THEM. Enjoy your marriage and LOVE SOME MORE!!!

To Cody, my "original thinker man", you are so amazing. I really admire how your mind works. All your convictions from original thinking, without the influence of tv, books, movies or other external forces, are outstandingly awesome! You are a strong leader of our relationship and I entrust you our marriage. I trust that your intentions are pure and that you only want what's best for us. You are a strong-willed man and I admire that a lot about you. You don't let other people influence how you would act and think negatively and that just amazes me in ways I could not begin to describe coz of how overwhelming they are. In a great way. Thank you for being faithful to me for more than a year now. Thank you for desiring me alone. Thank you for putting GOD first in your life and being. I LOVE YOU SO VERY MUCH, MY FOREVER CODY!

TO OUR FATHER, YOU ARE THE GREATEST AND THE MOST PERFECT! NO ONE IS ABOVE YOU! YOU ARE GOD ALONE! YOU ARE OUR EVER FIRST LOVE! CODY AND I ARE YOURS! THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING! WE LOVE YOU WITH ALL OF US!

ALL THE GLORY IN THIS RELATIONSHIP BELONGS TO GOD ALONE!!!

ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE WITH GOD!!!

P.U.S.H.

When you feel GOD's love, OVERFLOW!

Patience has its Own Rewards

Patience - The act or power of calmly or contentedly waiting for something due or hoped for

Hebrews 6:12
We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.

I believe that GOD has so many promises in HIS Word.

On HIS promises, I stand.

Cody has been laid off for more or less 10 months. We have been waiting for him to have a new job. I admit that I have been impatient - which is my nature before. I desire to overcome my negative nature with the Fruit of the Spirit. I took matters in my own hands so we planned for him to move here if he doesn't get a new job this year. We also planned for him to visit very soon but now, it's all canceled. Why? Because after all the wait, Cody got a new job! Yipee! Thank GOD! Truly, PATIENCE HAS ITS OWN REWARDS. And the great thing is we can see the possibility of getting married soon - we're moving closer to our dream marriage! Yay!

JESUS CHRIST promised us an ABUNDANT LIFE so we must believe and trust that HE has already done that through the CROSS.

ALL THE GLORY IN THIS RELATIONSHIP BELONGS TO GOD ALONE!!!

ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE WITH GOD!!!

P.U.S.H.

When you feel GOD's love, OVERFLOW!

Fruit of the Spirit: The First Steps to an Enduring Marriage

Wow! Just wow! I've read this article and it holds a lot of TRUTH. I have related so much because of so many things and because 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 have been my guide ever since I've had my relationship with Cody. I would like to share this to each one of you. Before reading, please pray for GOD's Wisdom to be upon you and that you may only be wise in GOD's eyes, not yours. I pray that you will understand and heed as much as you can. If you'd like to ask questions, I'd be very willing to answer all of them. Enjoy reading! More LOVE in you. Grow more in the Spirit, not just with your words.

FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT: THE FIRST STEPS TO AN ENDURING MARRIAGE

ALL THE GLORY BELONGS TO GOD ALONE!!! ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE WITH GOD!!!

P.U.S.H.

When you feel GOD's love, OVERFLOW!

LOVE that Goes the Distance

literally...hehehe!

You are unique. There is no one who is exactly like you. You may have similar qualities with others but not entirely. Same with your partner. Your partner is different from you. That should be a great thing. Why? Because if everything is similar, then it will get boring and complacent. Everything will be a routine. You just stay in one level of your life and you will never grow out of it because you're comfortable and complacent there. Trials and differences are the spices in a relationship.

Okay let me give you an illustration...You're craving for a hot chicken noodle soup in a very cold winter day. As you were sipping, it's just hot water you can taste. No salt, no pepper. No spices. Nothing to tickle your senses and give you so much delight. Same goes with marriage. No trials, no growth.

Women are cravers of a certain food. I am a craver. I usually crave for a certain food I want. It happens once a week. (Okay I rambled hehehe)

Whenever Cody and I experience complications, I always think why we have a long distance relationship. Why do we have to be distant when others could always be with the person they love every time they desire? (Feel blessed that the person you love is with you right now.)

My nature was being immature, impatient, stubborn and not gentle. When GOD won me back, I've desired to change that nature. I desire to be selfless and to glorify GOD. No rules attached. After a year of being with Cody, I still felt envious of other people even though I know that we have a beautiful blessing bestowed upon us.

It all changed.

I almost gave up. I was in the brinks of falling apart. GOD caught me in time and brought the pieces together. In HIS Perfect Timing. HE changed selfishness into LOVE. Pure, selfless and true LOVE. I can't even begin to explain it. It's indescribably amazing!

I could feel the JOY and PEACE overflowing in my heart. Just rushing in me. I could feel the grace of GOD that is wrapped around me. I could feel unconditional LOVE. Once again, HE revealed my rhema verses about LOVE. And this time, it turned me around - into a totally different person. I have never loved like this before. Now I can honestly say that with all of me. HE changed envy with satisfaction. HE changed selfishness with selflessness. HE changed anger with forgiveness. HE changed misery with joy. HE gave me the ABUNDANT LIFE that HE promised us. I just woke up one day and began to feel HIS perfect love. I sang a song in my heart. I desire to live 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 and 1 Corinthians 14:1. I will let love be my guide.

So I asked myself again. Why this distance? I heard HIM whisper to my heart that if I cannot be mature, patient, unstubborn and gentle when we're distant then I cannot be when we're together. The things we practice before marriage and the things that we will bring into marriage. It is a matter of choice. Now I know HIS great purpose for this distance. I am growing to be the person that HE wants me to be and I could never be this happy and contented. I can be the richest person in the world with regards to money but happiness cannot be bought. There is that void in us that only GOD can fill. It is a matter of choice. Free will was given to you by our Precious FATHER.

GOD has opened a door that has never been opened by anyone before and that is the door called "GROWTH" and all the glory belongs to GOD alone.

I am super thankful that GOD gave me a man who desires to complete his commitment and to never give up on me. The man who never stopped loving me.

We all have one GOD. We have the same GOD. When trials come, the question is not HIS existence in our life (because HE is always present) but how tight we hold onto HIM. GOD is holding onto you right now. Ever so tightly. And HE never let go. Are you holding onto HIM, too?

ALL THE GLORY IN MY LIFE AND IN THIS RELATIONSHIP BELONGS TO GOD ALONE!!!

ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE WITH GOD!!!

P.U.S.H.

When you feel GOD's love, OVERFLOW!

Your Adam and Your Eve

As my parents and I were eating lunch together, my parents were talking about my cousin who works there at the school. For some reason, my mom ended up concluding that my aunt is the woman who was meant for my uncle-in-law and that she was gotten from his ribs. Amazing insight!

I suddenly thought of my Cody.

This is the insight that has been bestowed upon me...

Genesis 2:21-23
So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

The man said,
"This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called 'woman, '
for she was taken out of man."

Genesis 2:16-17
And the LORD God commanded the man, "You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die."

As we all know, they both ate from that tree.

Since GOD is Spirit, I was thinking that the separation of this couple from GOD was mostly about spirit. The couple was also separated from each other spiritually.

So physically a certain couple is separated from each other until GOD's Perfect Timing for them to meet and marry physically and spiritually. United as one in all aspects.

I also would like to share a text message that my sister sent to me last week...

I don't know if GOD cries, but I imagine HIM crying when HE had to see Adam and Eve leave the garden of Eden. And at that very moment, I hear HIM whisper, "Don't worry. I'm gonna get you back. Whatever it takes. Whatever it takes."

I am not gonna tackle about Theology as it is going to be a very deep lesson. hehehe! I can start sharing when I start attending my classes at Bible school. Oh jeez I'm excited!

Did my post confuse you? hehehe!

I'll leave you with a thought...if you're a man, who is your Eve? if you're a woman, who is your Adam? If you'd like to share about them, don't hesitate to do so. Share your lovelife and the first time you met them. I'm excited to read your stories, my friends!

I have found my Adam and he is the most handsome man in the world - in my eyes! hehehe!

Cody, I believe that you are my Adam. Even when we are encountering trials, I know and believe that we are still made for each other. GOD built this relationship and I will forever cherish it.

FATHER GOD, YOU ALONE ARE WORTHY OF OUR PRAISE AND WORSHIP! YOU ALONE ARE OUR GOD!

ALL THE GLORY IN THIS RELATIONSHIP BELONGS TO GOD ALONE!!!

ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE WITH GOD!!!

P.U.S.H.

When you feel GOD's love, OVERFLOW!